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Addiction to Chat Rooms
It always starts harmless. A friend tells you about these new uncharted territories—the chatrooms. Why should I chat? Usually you have some free time left and you are curious and want to be up-to-date. Sometimes you meet your friends in the chatroom instead of giving them a call. Later, you get more interested in other anonymous chatterers and find a common ground.
Most times you chitchat with each other, sometimes you write with phantasy and give an impression to them. After seeing for a while the same nickname of a chatterer, you want to know more about them. You want to meet them each day, each hour, each minute so you won’t miss any small talk or laughter.
It starts to be harmful when you prefer to stay on while your friends go out for dinner and have fun. Maybe you won’t have time to prepare a meal for yourself and eat only fast food. If you stay online all night long, you won;t get enough sleep. Finally, you can say that you are addicted to chatrooms. This will be a serious problem in our society in the future
Everyone who frequents an online chatroom does it for one of a few reasons. Overwhelmingly we find that it’s either loneliness coupled with a real desire to connect with other human beings or an outlet for a bit of flirting and sexual fantasy. Fewer people use online chat as a way to meet a new partner. When I tell this to people with no online chat experience I get wide eyes and a quizzical look who can’t imagine spending day after day or evening after evening talking to a bunch of strangers via text chat or video cam.
To the doubters, it’s really true. It even happened to me. I was a single mother who held a full-time job. At the break of dawn I got the kids up, fed them breakfast, fixed their lunches, took them to school and headed to work. After work I stopped at the supermarket, went home, cooked dinner, did the cleaning up afterward, helped the kids with homework, put a load of wash in and ironed everyone’s clothes for the next day and then tucked the kids in bed. Where’s the life for me? Where’s the adult conversation? Where’s someone to care whether I am alive or not?
For me, I found them all online. For over a year I had never been in the same room with my best friends. We’d meet every night around 9:30pm after the kids were in bed. We’d talk about EVERYTHING. One minute we’d be talking about the best shampoo to wash the dog and then it would move to what did everyone cook for dinner and then it would be about the sexiest lingerie to ensure a hot date. If one of “the regulars” didn’t show up, we’d worry and eventually someone would ring just to be sure. It was an amazing time for me. I finally felt connected to a group of people who cared about me and were sincerely interested in what I had to say. My opinion mattered on every subject even if we disagreed.
Finally I met someone and my attention turned to real life and I didn’t need my online friends so much. They were happy for me and while they said they missed me, they were eager for me to create a new life for me and my family. I’ll never forget them. Southernbelle, MamaRose, Rattatosk, Arjon and so many more that it would take the rest of this paragraph to list. I haven’t talked with them for years but I know that if we were in the same room, the conversation would take off like we had never parted ways.
So if you know someone who you think is addicted to chat, it might be that it’s exactly what they need right now. Know that it’s temporary but it’s fulfilling a real need in their lives.
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